The longer I'm in business, the less I need people to like or approve of me. Now, do I sometimes struggle with this? Of course! We all do. I can spiral into a pit of "like-like-like me, pretty please," as fast as the next chick. But I spend far less time in this smelly, murky maze than I used to.
This epiphany recently hit me during an email exchange with Maria Ross, owner of Red Slice, a branding and marketing company.
She wrote, "I want to bounce ideas off of people who won’t just 'yes' me to death, but who will provide juicy feedback. I’d love to do the same 'tough love' for you."
When we look to others for approval or, worse, unconsciously seek out only folks who praise us, we'll won't find out own growth edges. Sad result? We can't lead our companies to rockstar status if we ourselves aren't willing to go there!
Being an entrepreneur requires much of us, both professionally and personally. Our inner attitudes and outer work are inextricably linked, and no way can we snag the sort of success we want if we don’t have tools and strategies for the parts of us who really do want others’ approval.
Tara Sophia Mohr of Wise Living says it best. "If you take risks, sometimes you'll get a standing ovation, and sometimes, people will throw tomatoes. Can you think of any leader or innovator whom you admire who doesn't have enthusiastic fans and harsh critics? Get used to wins and losses, praise and pans, getting a call back and being ignored. Work on letting go of needing to be liked and needing to be universally known as 'a nice person.'" Tweet this tidbit!
Power Chicks Chime In: What's your experience of wanting to be known as a 'nice person'? Does it impact your ability to lead your company to rockstar status? What tip can you offer other Power Chicks to move beyond a need for approval into true, impactful action?
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