A couple months ago, I started checking in with myself to see if I had any unconscious motives around Facebook updates on my business page. I was shocked to realize I did. Me, queen of authenticity!
I continued feeling into this and soon developed a “pause before post” practice, which helps me tune into who’s really posting – my raging ego or my true self.
See, when I hand over my keyboard to my ego, I apply puffery – yes, and pontification! And exclamation points! – to my accomplishments, so I appear bigger than I feel. I’m also tempted to tag others not from a full heart but so I look like one of the cool kids (also known as acting out my inner junior higher). I could go on, but you get my point.
While lots of us enjoy Facebook and how it connects us to others, it also inspires competitiveness, feeling “less than,” etc. Not only do we experience this time and again, it’s a well-research phenomena. I call it Facebook Funk.
Colleague, friend and leadership coach Kristy Swanson wrote about the funk in her post, Keepin’ It Real.
A culture of self-promotion has developed which is more about creating an illusion of success and happiness and manufactured personality, rather than being real, telling the truth, and showing up as who you actually are.
Amen, sista! A culture of self-promotion rings truer than true – we see it, we feel it, we contribute to it, we judge others for doing it.
At the same time, we long to bring our deepest integrity to every interaction, online or off. That’s why, I’ll soon be sharing tools I’ve developed to help you stay firmly in your core self while engaging in social media.
But first, I would love to hear your take on this topic and incorporate your thoughts into the upcoming blog post. Here’s how.
Write a blog post on this topic.
Link to this article, so others can find it. Explore your thoughts and feelings about how you and others use Facebook.
Share your thoughts in the comments.
Do you ever notice a “look at me” motives when you post? Have you ever been pissed about someone’s update and wondered why? How do you handle any negative emotions Facebook evokes for you? Are you a rare wonder girl who has only positive feelings?
Can’t wait to read your posts and comments.
With loads of warmth,