I was knee-deep in a Skype call with Heather White, friend, business advisor and life designer, when she said she'd taken Soul Caller Training with Amy Oscar. Heather's one of those women who both intrigues and inspires me; she has undergone her own transformation both personally and professionally. So when she speaks, I listen.
I scribbled Amy’s name on the back of my phone bill envelope in black ballpoint ink; the next day, I checked out her class. I wasn’t sure about signing up for something with the word “soul” in the title – it made me skittish, still does. But, I was intrigued, I had Heather's highest recommendation and when I popped to Amy's website, I found this yummy goodness:
You … have an important purpose.
That purpose? To learn, to love, to live – as fully and deeply as you possibly can. A purpose that will inevitably lead you toward service – the kind of service that will change your life, and change the world.
You also have a practical purpose, a natural inclination toward certain kinds of work, toward particular environments and lifestyle. You have a natural affinity for certain people. This is resonance.
This resonance is the most intoxicating elixir there is – it makes you feel aligned, awake, alive.
When it’s not there, you notice: you feel out of sorts, not yourself. You miss it – you miss you. You cannot help but shift, cannot help but move back toward alignment – it’s too uncomfortable not to.
Is this not the shift I was talking about in Open Letter to Power Chicks? Doesn’t it speak exquisitely to the desire to serve you as a woman entrepreneur in a more holistic, wholehearted and centered way?
Needless to say, I signed up. Class was rich, deep, moving and filled with Amy’s gentle spirit and wisdom.
So, when Amy agreed to chat with Power Chicks about her own journey as a woman with a deep passion, I was thrilled. Amy has had some of the same growing pains we all do as entrepreneurs – lows, highs, lessons, and more.
But I’ll let her share. Listen in.
Lynn: You recently said, "Nothing, save childbirth, has been this challenging while also so soul-shatteringly expansive." Tell us more about this.
Amy: When I was pregnant with my first child, I realized: “There’s no going back now.” That is what working on the Soul Caller Training is like. Once I committed to the work, it was clear – there was no going back.
But unlike a nine-month pregnancy, the idea for this training came fully formed. I sensed it arose from two things:
- The yearning we all have for ‘something more’ – and, also, a context for understanding that longing. By that, I mean both individually and as a whole – collectively.
- My own request for a meaningful life, to be of service to others as our world moves toward light and love.
I received the idea as an invitation – not an assignment. But I knew that if I said no, a part of me would die – and with that part would come grief and, potentially, years of therapy. So I held my breath – and leaped.
I said yes – and, like birthing a child, there was struggle and pushing and a thousand more yeses.
I was reborn. No longer a writer who dreamed of sharing her ideas with others: now, I was a teacher.
This work is an absolute joy and unfolding into what I’ve wanted all of my life.
Lynn: In recent months, you’ve lost self-doubt, self-consciousness and the need to apologize for being powerful. How did this happen – and how can we, too, experience expansion through our own work?
Amy: I still doubt. I still get self-conscious. For me, this happens most often when I am with someone I perceive as better or more important than I am. Maybe they have more education or worldly status – forms in which I used to be very invested.
But now, instead of being completely unmoored, I take a moment to reoccupy myself. I return to the center of my heart – and I take a deep breath. I open my ‘inner eyes’, the eyes through which my true self sees. From this sovereign space within, all I can see in the other person is love.
In other words, to experience your own power, see the world (and all other people) through the eyes of love.
Lynn: I've heard you talk about edges – what are edges, and what choices do they invite us to make?
Amy: Edges are the places in our lives where we don’t feel free. Edges arise when we find ourselves waking up to the ways that we give our power away. When we arrive at an edge, we always have a choice.
We can ask: What would love do here? When I ask this question it dissolves every other concern – how I look, competition, games, getting ahead, falling behind.
For me, it comes down to this:
Do I believe that the world is dangerous, threatening, out to get me? Or, do I believe that the world is a responsive, loving place?
To change your life and create the world in which you want to live, choose toward love.
Choose love in all things, no matter what happens; no matter whom you are with; no matter where you find yourself. Choose toward love. In that way, wherever you go, there is only love.
Ah, ladies. See why I so admire Amy? She's the real deal: honest, wise beyond-beyond, and serving women (and men, too) beautifully.